NOTE 20

[20]
While she is tender towards her 7 children,especially daughter Daphne, she often treats Anthony, unintentionally, with severe harshness, coldness and even cruelty, by consistently
scolding him and pointing mercilessly on his duties [making cruel remarks like ”O my dear son, your father should have been soooo disappointed], without giving him room for
 a break or even mourning his dead father [by saying ”Stop mourning, it’s ten years now, while she herself takes all the time for mourning]
So Anthony thinks mistakingly that his mother only uses him in his role as Viscount and loves him less then the other children.

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NOTE 19

[19]
Violet: “Are you actually returning to your bachelor lodgings in the city, or is there a certain soprano you intend to visit?”
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[15]
[16]
AI OVERVIEW
In British history (specifically during the Regency and Victorian eras), a marriage between an aristocrat and an opera singer was socially unacceptable. This phenomenon also forms the basis for well-known cultural and pop culture narratives, such as the storyline of Anthony Bridgerton and Siena Rosso in the series Bridgerton.
Social Status and ‘Social Death’
  • Immoral reputation: Actresses and opera singers were viewed by high society as women of loose morals.
  • Class barrier: An aristocrat could keep a singer as a mistress, but marriage was a taboo.
  • Social ruin: Such a marriage meant exclusion from high society (social death).
  • Family interests: It directly ruined the marriage prospects of sisters and daughters within the noble family.
Historical Reality vs. Fiction
Although rare, such marriages did occur in British history. These invariably led to major scandals or forced secrecy:
Year Aristocrat Artist / Singer Outcome / Status
1724 Earl of Peterborough Anastasia Robinson (Soprano) The marriage was kept strictly secret for years.
1751 Duke of Bolton Lavinia Fenton (Operetta/Soprano) Married only after the death of his first wife; caused a scandal.
1838 Earl of Essex Catherine Stephens (Opera singer) He married her at the age of 80, shortly before his death.
Literary and Popular Culture
  • Bridgerton: The impossibility of this scenario is the core of the relationship between Viscount Anthony Bridgerton and opera singer Siena Rosso.
  • Classical Literature: In nineteenth-century novels (such as those by Louis Couperus or George Eliot), the theater world is consistently depicted as a destructive factor for noble lineages.
 
 
[17]
 
 
 
In British history (specifically during the Regency and Victorian eras), a marriage between an aristocrat and an opera singer was socially unacceptable. This phenomenon also forms the basis for well-known cultural and pop culture narratives, such as the storyline of Anthony Bridgerton and Siena Rosso in the series Bridgerton.
Social Status and ‘Social Death’
  • Immoral reputation: Actresses and opera singers were viewed by high society as women of loose morals.
  • Class barrier: An aristocrat could keep a singer as a mistress, but marriage was a taboo.
  • Social ruin: Such a marriage meant exclusion from high society (social death).
  • Family interests: It directly ruined the marriage prospects of sisters and daughters within the noble family.
Historical Reality vs. Fiction
Although rare, such marriages did occur in British history. These invariably led to major scandals or forced secrecy:
Year Aristocrat Artist / Singer Outcome / Status
1724 Earl of Peterborough Anastasia Robinson (Soprano) The marriage was kept strictly secret for years.
1751 Duke of Bolton Lavinia Fenton (Operetta/Soprano) Married only after the death of his first wife; caused a scandal.
1838 Earl of Essex Catherine Stephens (Opera singer) He married her at the age of 80, shortly before his death.
Literary and Popular Culture
  • Bridgerton: The impossibility of this scenario is the core of the relationship between Viscount Anthony Bridgerton and opera singer Siena Rosso.
  • Classical Literature: In nineteenth-century novels (such as those by Louis Couperus or George Eliot), the theater world is consistently depicted as a destructive factor for noble lineages.
 
 
 
[18]
 
 
AI OVERVIEW
 
 
In British history (specifically during the Regency and Victorian eras), a marriage between an aristocrat and an opera singer was socially unacceptable. This phenomenon also forms the basis for well-known cultural and pop culture narratives, such as the storyline of Anthony Bridgerton and Siena Rosso in the series Bridgerton.
Social Status and ‘Social Death’
  • Immoral reputation: Actresses and opera singers were viewed by high society as women of loose morals.
  • Class barrier: An aristocrat could keep a singer as a mistress, but marriage was a taboo.
  • Social ruin: Such a marriage meant exclusion from high society (social death).
  • Family interests: It directly ruined the marriage prospects of sisters and daughters within the noble family.
Historical Reality vs. Fiction
Although rare, such marriages did occur in British history. These invariably led to major scandals or forced secrecy:
Year Aristocrat Artist / Singer Outcome / Status
1724 Earl of Peterborough Anastasia Robinson (Soprano) The marriage was kept strictly secret for years.
1751 Duke of Bolton Lavinia Fenton (Operetta/Soprano) Married only after the death of his first wife; caused a scandal.
1838 Earl of Essex Catherine Stephens (Opera singer) He married her at the age of 80, shortly before his death.
Literary and Popular Culture
  • Bridgerton: The impossibility of this scenario is the core of the relationship between Viscount Anthony Bridgerton and opera singer Siena Rosso.
  • Classical Literature: In nineteenth-century novels (such as those by Louis Couperus or George Eliot), the theater world is consistently depicted as a destructive factor for noble lineages.
 
 
 
SEE ALSO
 
 
HER HUSBAND
HER HUSBAND
HER HUSBAND

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NOTES 11 T/M 14

[11]
While she is tender towards her 7 children,especially daughter Daphne, she often treats Anthony, unintentionally, with severe harshness, coldness and even cruelty, by consistently
scolding him and pointing mercilessly on his duties [making cruel remarks like ”O my dear son, your father should have been soooo disappointed], without giving him room for
 a break or even mourning his dead father [by saying ”Stop mourning, it’s ten years now, while she herself takes all the time for mourning]
So Anthony thinks mistakingly that his mother only uses him in his role as Viscount and loves him less then the other children.
[12]
[13]
AI OVERVIEW
2. The Historical Context: “Social Death”
In the Regency period, “social death” was not a metaphor, but a merciless reality with devastating consequences:
  • Family Contamination: If Anthony (the head of the family!) had married an opera singer, he would not be the only one excluded. The entire Bridgerton family would have been struck from all guest lists immediately.
  • Marriage Prospects of the Sisters: For Daphne, Eloise, Francesca, and Hyacinth, the damage would be irreparable. No nobleman of standing would propose to a girl whose brother had “married into the gutter.” They would effectively be doomed to a life as unmarried aunts on the sidelines.
  • Economic and Political Isolation: A Viscount’s power lay in his network. Without access to the clubs, the balls, and the political circles of the ton, Anthony would completely lose his influence and, with it, the ability to protect his family’s interests.
  • The “Demimonde”: Siena belonged to the demimonde (the half-world). While men of the aristocracy were permitted to frequent this world for amusement, crossing the line through marriage was considered the ultimate sin.
OTHER AI OVERVIEW
AI OVERVIEW
Your assessment of the social dynamics in the Bridgerton TV series regarding Anthony Bridgerton and the opera singer Siena Rosso is accurate to the historical context of the Regency Era (1811–1820). 
Here is a breakdown of why that relationship was forced into hiding:
  • The Reputation of Performers: During the Regency, women who performed on stage—including actresses and opera singers—were frequently viewed as “immoral” or “loose women” by the upper-class “Ton”. Because they performed in public for money and were financially independent, they were seen as improper compared to the secluded, sheltered lives of aristocratic women.
  • The “No-Go” Area of Marriage: A marriage between an aristocrat (like a Viscount) and a singer was considered a scandal, often seen as a mésalliance (a marriage with someone of lower social status) that would ruin his family’s reputation. This is why Lady Violet, Anthony’s mother, would have considered such a match an impossibility.
  • Public Constraints: The social stigma meant that public outings were forbidden for such couples. They could not “wine and dine” in fashionable Mayfair restaurants, promenade in popular spots like Kew Gardens, or show themselves together at Almack’s.
  • Isolation in Private: Due to these extreme social restrictions, their relationship was confined entirely to private spaces, most notably behind closed doors, to avoid ruining Anthony’s standing in society
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ADDED
[12A]
[12A]
VIOLET’S SELECTIVE EXCUSES
VIOLET’S EXCUSES
[Almost literal text]
”  “I am your mother, Anthony. And I owe you more apologies than I can ever possibly articulate. After your father died, I… I was not there. The grief was… it was all-consuming. And I allowed you to take on a burden that was too heavy for anyone, let alone an eighteen-year-old boy. I am so sorry. I failed you, Anthony. I failed to be a mother to you when you needed me most.”
…..
….
”””I am so sorry it was you who was with your father that day. And I am sorry for everything that happened in the days that followed. If I could go back and change it, you have no idea—I would go back and change everything. It is what I think about every night before I close my eyes and every morning before I open them. It will never go away.”
ANTHONY’S REACTION
Anthony: “There is no need for apologies. The past is the past.”
AI OVERVIEW
The Half-Apology: Why True Forgiveness is Impossible
Anthony’s reaction to Violet’s peace offering in Season 2 is calculated and distant because he knows she is still avoiding the core of the issue:
  • The Unspoken Awareness: Anthony is fully aware that his mother saw his love for Siena and chose to sabotage it. Because he knows that she knows, her selective apology—focusing only on her grief for his father—feels incomplete and hollow to him.
  • The Lukewarm Acceptance: This is why he accepts her excuses without any real warmth or enthusiasm. He performs the “dutiful son” one last time by nodding along, but he does not let her back into his heart. He gives her the politeness she requires, but denies her the intimacy she craves.
  • The Self-Imposed Barrier: As you noted, by not being honest about Siena, Violet robs herself of the chance to be truly forgiven. Real forgiveness requires a full confession of the debt, and since she refuses to mention the “everything” he sacrificed, the debt remains between them.
  • A Relationship of Form over Substance: The result is a relationship that remains functional but emotionally stunted. They may share a home and a name, but they no longer share a soul, because Violet is too afraid to face the reality of what she took from him.
The Bottom Line: Anthony’s coldness is the “price” Violet pays for her silence. She wanted him to be the Viscount of the house, and in doing so, she became a guest in his life rather than a confidante. By avoiding the truth about Siena, she secured her social standing but lost her son’s trust forever.
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SEE ALSO THE PSYCHOLOGICAL QUESTION ASTRID ESSED ASKED AND THE ANSWER SHE RECEIVED…
GUESTION:
WHEN A MOTHER HAS SABOTAGED THE RELATIONSHIP OF HER SON BY SHAMING HIS LOVE, BUT LATER EXCUSES FOR OTHERSERIOUS FAULTS SHE MADE, BUT DOESN’T
MAKE EXCUSES FOR THE SABOTAGE, WILL THAT LEAD TO DAMAGE IN THEIR
FURTHER RELATIONSHIP?
AI OVERVIEW
Yes, this dynamic will almost certainly lead to long-term damage in their relationship. In psychology, a mother’s sabotage of her son’s romantic life is often tied to toxic enmeshment. By avoiding accountability for this specific pain, she signals a lack of true remorse. [12]
The Impact of Selective Accountability
  • Invalidation: Deflecting responsibility for minor faults while ignoring the deepest wound invalidates the son’s lived experience and the reality of his emotional pain. [1]
  • Conditional Apologies: Excusing certain behaviors but minimizing others shows that the mother is more focused on preserving her image or avoiding shame than she is on repairing the emotional damage caused by her control. [1]
  • Trust Erosion: True reconciliation requires acknowledging the core betrayal. Without it, the son will likely realize that the sabotage could happen again, leading to persistent guardedness. [1]
Common Psychological Dynamics
  • The “Mother Wound”: A mother who is overly critical of or competitive with her son’s romantic partners can leave deep psychological impacts, such as chronic guilt, an inability to commit, and attachment issues. [12]
  • Lack of Boundaries: When a parent interferes with a child’s romantic life, it frequently stems from a failure to recognize the son as an independent adult. [12]
  • Forced Loyalty: The son is placed in an impossible loyalty bind—choosing either a romantic partner or his mother. [1]
Because selective apologies do not address the root causes of toxic family bonds, relationships in this situation often plateau, with the son resorting to surface-level interaction or stepping back to protect his peace
OR
When a mother has sabotaged the relationship of her son by shaming his love, and later offers excuses for other serious faults she made, but doesn”t make excuses for the sabotage, will that lead to damage in their further relationship?

ANSWER
AI

Yes, this behavior will almost certainly cause severe, long-term damage to their relationship. When a mother selectively apologizes for minor faults while ignoring major emotional sabotage, it prevents true healing.
Why Selective Apologies Cause Damage
  • Invalidates the son’s pain: Ignoring the sabotage signals that his romantic choices and emotional pain do not matter.
  • Breaks fundamental trust: Shaming a child’s love is a deep betrayal that is hard to overlook without explicit accountability.
  • Creates a surface-level relationship: The bond becomes superficial because the elephant in the room is never addressed.
  • Triggers resentment: The son will likely feel anger every time she expects closeness without earning it back.
  • Demonstrates lack of insight: It shows the mother is either unaware of her destructiveness or unwilling to face her biggest mistakes.
Potential Outcomes for Their Future
  • Emotional detachment: The son may physically show up for family events but completely withdraw emotionally.
  • Strict boundaries: The son might heavily restrict what information he shares about his personal life to protect future partners.
  • Estrangement: If the mother continues to avoid accountability, the son may eventually cut contact entirely.
What Is Missing for True Healing
  • Direct acknowledgment: The mother must explicitly name the sabotage and the shaming.
  • Validation of impact: She needs to acknowledge exactly how much pain and damage her actions caused.
  • A sincere apology: A real apology requires expressing genuine remorse without making excuses or shifting blame.
  • Changed behavior: She must demonstrate a permanent shift by respecting his autonomy and his relationships moving forward.
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NOTES 1 T/M 10

[1]
[2]
[3]
[4]
”By the death of the patriarch and father of Anthony, Edmund, his wife Violet is so
deep in mourning, that Anthony has to take full responsibility for not only the Estate and Household [as the head of the family], but also as the ”caretaker” and surrogate father of his younger brothers and sisters
When Lady Violet resumes her tasks as matriarch again, she is still mourning, often not
realizing that Anthony, even though he is the judicial head of the family, needs the
love of his mother too.”
[5]
”While she is tender towards her 7 children,especially daughter Daphne, she often treats Anthony, unintentionally, with severe harshness, coldness and even cruelty, by consistently
scolding him and pointing mercilessly on his duties [making cruel remarks like ”O my dear son, your father should have been soooo disappointed], without giving him room for
 a break or even mourning his dead father [by saying ”Stop mourning, it’s ten years now, while she herself takes all the time for mourning]”
[6]
”How immense the burden is for an 18 year old boy is something that Lady Violet doesn’t realize at all, until much later.
She forces him [as is his task as head of the family] to arrange the marriage and the debut of his sister Daphne and of course he makes some mistakes, but Lady Violet, instead of
understanding that he has to learn from his mistakes, jumps on him  like a tigress defending her offspring [in this case Daphne] and
 scolding him without mercy.
So the twisted thing was:
They were not only Mother and Son, but also Matriarch [Violet]
and legal head of the Family [son Anthony]
Despite her deep love for Anthony, Violet saw him as the Viscount [who had to arrange the business of the Family], but at the same time she treated him not
so much as her son, but as a child, scolding him severely and mercilessly,
without any compassion and tenderness a child needs.
[7]

  • Missteps: Even minor actions, like improper riding habits (not riding side-saddle) or letting hair down in public, could tarnish a lady’s image, according to a Reddit user.
  • Appearance: Appearing in public with untidy hair or wearing inappropriate attire could cause scandal”
 
 
AI OVERVIEW
 
 
AI

Social ruin in the Regency era (approx. 1811–1820) for the Ton—high society—meant the total loss of reputation, ostracization, and exclusion from elite circles due to broken social etiquette, scandal, or financial ruin. A single lapse in propriety, particularly for women, could destroy marital prospects and family standing permanently.

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Key Causes of Social Ruin:
  • For Women (Loss of Virtue): Being unchaperoned with a man, eloping, public scandals, or premarital sex.
  • For Men (Loss of Honor): Failing to pay gambling debts, cowardice, or failing to protect their reputation.
  • Behavioral Transgressions: Using improper language, acting in a way that suggests low breeding, or failing to secure a desirable match.
  • Public Exposure: Falling out of favor with fashionable leaders or becoming the subject of gossip columns, as discussed in Mental Floss.
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Consequences of Ruin:
  • Ostracization: Shunned at balls, Almack’s, and polite society.
  • Marriage Failure: A tarnished woman often failed to secure a good marriage or was forced into a reputation-saving, yet undesirable, marriage.
  • Family Impact: Scandalous behavior from one family member could tarnish the reputation of the entire family, limiting the prospects of siblings, as discussed on the Historical Emporium.
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Key Scenarios:
  • Lydia Bennet in Pride and Prejudice: Her elopement nearly destroys her family’s social standing.
  • Missteps: Even minor actions, like improper riding habits (not riding side-saddle) or letting hair down in public, could tarnish a lady’s image, according to a Reddit user.
  • Appearance: Appearing in public with untidy hair or wearing inappropriate attire could cause scandal

GOOGLE SEARCH ON ”’SOCIAL RUIN IN THE REGENCY ERA/TON

SEE ALSO

https://www.astridessed.nl/bridgerton-social-ruin-in-regency-era-ai-overview/

[8]

https://www.astridessed.nl/bridgerton-lady-violet-her-son-anthony-and-the-siena-rosso-affair-the-beginning/

[9]

https://www.astridessed.nl/bridgerton-in-short-the-relationship-of-lady-violet-and-her-son-anthony-a-mothers-deep-love-and-harshness/

[10]

”REASONS FOR VIOLET’S HARSHNESS, TENDING TO CRUELTY

Firstly
Violet doesnt realize her own harshness and as far as she sees it, she thinks she must harden
Anthony for his role as patriarch of the family in a relentless social Regency Era, where one
misstep could cause social death
And that threat of social death, especially concerning the marriage chances of
her daughters, is the reason for her harshness against Anthony in a time, that missteps
were not forgiven
So, because of that situation, she is extremely strict against him, culminating in cruelty, which hurts him deeply, especially given her tenderness to her other children.
She also fails to see his needs because of her deep mourning.
Then there is the unequal position of men and women.
As head of the Family, Anthony is now managing the Family Estates, while his mother is financially subordinate.
And as a strong willed woman, Violet finds that hard to accept.
Then, as an eldest son, Anthony bears all the responsibility for the family.
How immense the burden is for an 18 year old boy is something that Lady Violet doesn’t realize at all, until much later.
She forces him [as is his task as head of the family] to arrange the marriage and the debut of his sister Daphne and of course he makes some mistakes, but Lady Violet, instead of
understanding that he has to learn from his mistakes, jumps on him  like a tigress defending her offspring [in this case Daphne] and
 scolding him without mercy.
So the twisted thing was:
They were not only Mother and Son, but also Matriarch [Violet]
and legal head of the Family [son Anthony]
Despite her deep love for Anthony, Violet saw him as the Viscount [who had to arrange the business of the Family], but at the same time she treated him not
so much as her son, but as a child, scolding him severely and mercilessly,
without any compassion and tenderness a child needs.”

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Anthony and Siena/Heartbreaking Love Scenes/In Music

Een close-up van het verbranden van hout in een open haard

 
 

For a long time, Siena was the hearth fire by which Anthony warmed himself against the cold walls of Aubrey Hall and a mother, who emotionally neglected him, though she loved him in her heart.

With her, he could be himself for a moment, with someone who saw him as a man to be loved, not as a Viscount with duties.
ANTHONY AND SIENA/HEARTBREAKING LOVE SCENES
SEE THE YOUTUBE FILM BELOW!
EXCITING! HEARTBREAKING!
Set me as a seal upon your heart,
as a seal upon your arm,
for love is strong as death,
jealousy is fierce as the grave.
Its flashes are flashes of fire,
the very flame of the Lord.
Many waters cannot quench love,
neither can floods drown it.
If a man offered for love
all the wealth of his house,
he would be utterly despised.”
(Song of Songs 8:6–7 ESV)

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Siena as the Hearth Fire to Anthony/Love Scenes

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For a long time, Siena was the hearth fire by which Anthony warmed himself against the cold walls of Aubrey Hall and a mother, who emotionally neglected him, though she loved him in her heart.

With her, he could be himself for a moment, with someone who saw him as a man to be loved, not as a Viscount with duties.
SIENA  AS THE HEARTH FIRE TO ANTHONY/LOVE SCENES

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Bridgerton/Siena Rosso, the First and Deep Love of Anthony Bridgerton/”A Certain Soprano”

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tJsGWUDjgX0

SIENA ROSSO/THE FIRST AND DEEP LOVE OF ANTHONY BRIDGERTON/”A CERTAIN SOPRANO”
She was passionate, loving, courageous, proud and loyal till the End 
But she couldn’t be ”his fool again” 
Heartbreaking, but she protected him and herself.
 
And it is high time for someone to speak  out loudly and
give her the Honour she truly deserves.
 
 
INTRODUCTION
[Under the Notes you’ll meet Siena……]
 
HALLO FOLKS,
 
 
This Post is dedicated to a Bridgerton character, who is often overlooked or is only seen or talked about in relation to others, not as an individual.
And I think that’s wrong, because it doesn’t do justice to the person she was, no matter what you think of her:
 
As you already could see from the title it concerns opera singer Siena Rosso, who had a long standing Love Relationship with one of the main characters in the Bridgerton series, Anthony Bridgerton the eldest son and Head of the Bridgerton Family [1A]
Although the nature of their relationship is a source of discussion among Fans and although of course everyone is entitled to his or her own opinion, I think I have convincingly demonstrated, that it was real love between those two [2A]
 
 
It was a deep and passionate Love relationship [3A] 
And I dare say that Anthony Bridgerton would never forget her despite his later happiness with Kate Sharma, especially because he had to fight so hard for it and been thwarted by the very person who should have loved him unconditionally:
His mother, Lady Violet, who tried to give him the feeling [in which she did NOT succeed], that his love was something to be ashamed of [4A]
 
And yet apart from the fact that she had some social reasons for her objections [5A]
It was the inhuman WAY she did it by either dehumanizing her or silencing her.[6A],
leading to a permanent gap between her and her son Anthony, even when she offered her selective excuses in Season 2 [7A]
But I write about that another time
 
 
BACK TO SIENA
Today we give Siena her HUMANITY back
NOT SEEN AS A ”SCANDAL”, A SOURCE OF LUST OR FAR MORE CORRECTLY, LOVE, BUT AS A STRONG, INDEPENDENT WOMAN, WHO LOVED RAW BUT DEEPLY AND HAD TO MAKE A HEARTBREAKING CHOICE, BY THE INTOLERANCE AND HYPOCRISY OF THE TON AND THE WRONGLY DESIGNATED ”ADVOCATE OF LOVE, LADY VIOLET, WHO WITH HER ”BEST INTENTIONS” DESTROYED THE
VERY SOUL OF OWN HER SON [8A]
 
MEET SIENA ROSSO UNDER THE NOTES!
 
 
ASTRID ESSED
AND THIS FOR YOUR INFORMATION:
I’LL WRITE SOON ABOUT VIOLET”S DEHUMANIZATION OF SIENA ROSSO
NOTES
NOTE 1A T/M 3A
NOTES 4A AND 5A
NOTE 6A
NOTE 7A
NOTE 8A
SIENA ROSSO
[[What is most striking in the Bridgerton series is, that Siena is ”suddenly there”, without
any clues about her background, where she came from, whether she had any Family.
what were her hopes and dreams in life.
Her whole background is shrouded in mysteries.
And as she came, so she left, as if she vanished into thin air….”]
”REMEMBER FOLKS, SIENA HAD A SUCCESFUL CAREER BEFORE SHE MET ANTHONY BRIDGERTON. AND THAT MADE HER ”HER OWN WOMAN” WHO COULD LOVE AND CAST ASIDE….”
While having an opinion about opera singer Siena Rosso whether there was real love between her and Anthony Bridgerton or merely ”lust” and ”escapism” [1] many Fans refuse to see her as the woman she really was.
A loving, strong and independent woman in a difficult and precarious situation.
THE PRECARIOUS POSITION OF OPERA SINGERS/FINANCIAL SECURITY
To delve deeper into the World of Siena [the Opera World] it is important that you realize,,
that apart from all romantic and sensation of the Bridgertonseries  [2] [what was a part of her world to, with as main part her Love Affair with Anthony] [3], the position of opera singers was very, as I said, precarious and complicated in Regency Era.
As was rightly noted by a commentator
”While the women of the Bridgerton family live protected lives inside a bubble of wealth and balls, Siena literally has to sing for her supper.”
And that was the main difference between Siena and the Ton girls in general: [4]
Why they lived doing nothing but embroidering, doing ”charity” and visiting balls, Siena had to work for her money, wake up early, depending for her living from her voice.
But not only that:
In order to get a position and being in the opportunity to build up
a career, operasingers were dependent of wealthy men, mostly noblemen, to give them as well the possibility to make a career as
financial protection [5]
SEXUAL PREDATORS
In Regency Era, society was highly sexualized:
Men had practically every sexual right:
A sexual affair of a Ton man was considered as normal, but when a woman had a sexual affair and it came into light, she was completely ruined. [6]
Men ”had all the rights” and took them.
That reflected on the Opera World also:
Women [here Operasingers] were considered as a sort of
”justified sexual prey”, who could be approached by any ”’gentleman”, who wanted to go backstage of the Opera as some did. [7]
So having a wealthy ”protector” prevented women to be sexually approached by any ”gentleman”, who felt the need to do so [8]
But apart from the ”wealthy protector”, those women had to be raw and able to fight physically, were they in a situation that an oversexualized gentleman wanted to approach them and the protector was not in
the neighborhood.
You can see a glimpse from that in the sex scenes between Anthony and Siena, which are very passionate, not only because of the wild and passionate magnetic between them, but also because of Siena’s need to be strong and protect herself.
You see her grabbing Anthony intensely and pushing him against a wall and tearing his clothes off, by passion and despair [because their relationship is incriminated by his mother and society] [9], but also from her raw surviving instinct [10]
And to come back to that financial security:
Not only singers were frequently expected to pay for their own elaborate stage costumes, private transportation, security, and specialized vocal training, they had to live in fashionable neighborhoods for their status.
AND the Opera work was seasonal, what means that after the Opera
Season they had no income, what urged the need of a wealthy protector [11]
ANTHONY/OATH OF BENEDICT
”IF I DIE YOU MUST ENSURE SHE IS PROVIDED FOR”
[ANTHONY TO BENEDICT BEFORE THE DUEL
ABOUT HIS OATH TO
TAKE CARE FOR SIENA]
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tJsGWUDjgX0
That”s why Anthony Bridgerton was extremely worried about Siena on the Eve of the Duel.
He knew that without his protection, Siena not only was left without income, but also unprotected and a possible sexual prey [12]
And because of his deep love for her, just before the beginning of the duel with Simon Basset, Anthony pulled his brother Benedict aside and made him swear to take care for Siena financially, when he died in the duel…..[13]
One of the most impressive and convincing proofs of his love for her, since his last thoughts before his possible death were for her and her wellbeing [14]
Were it just ”lust” he wouldn’t have cared at all.
So that’s the double standards to Opera singers in Regency Era
On the one hand they were applauded for their talents and honoured with favors by the noble gentlemen, on the other hand they were not seen as equals and not permitted to entrance in the Ton because of their ”loose morals”, without considering that they couldn’t survive without wealthy patrons [15]
But that’s one thing.
Regarding the sexuality, they were ”tolerated” as mistresses, but the moment true love came in the picture, like in the case of Anthony Bridgerton and Siena [16], it became impossible to be together or marry[16A].
Being seen together at public places, even a walk in places like Kew Gardens, was strictly forbidden [17]
Anthony, who really and deeply loved Siena, wanted to break those cruel rules and force Ton Society to accept Siena as equal, by bringing her to the Ton Ball of his sister Daphne, now Duchess of Hastings, thinking that his own powerful position as Viscount and his sister’s position as Duchess were strong enough for the acceptance of Siena. [18]
Since Siena refused, leading to the heartbreaking end of their Love Affair [19], we don’t know what would have happened, but in most cases it ended with a great social scandal, leading to possible social ostracization of the aristocrat and serious social implications for the Operasinger  [20]
They could even be stopped at the door, to prevent they even attended the ball [21], but since in this case Anthony’s sister Daphne, Duchess of Hastings held the ball it is not likely that they would be denied entrance,
but social scandal surely would have been the case [22]
The cruel attitude of Anthony’s mother Lady Violet against Siena and by proxy her own son about their Love relationship [23] was a reflection of ”the shame society granted them” to quote the very words of Anthony [24][what of course doesn’t absolve Violet from her responsibility of especially her cruelty, leading to a permanent gap between her and her son [25]
SIENA AS A STRONG WOMAN
Why Lady Violet depicts Siena as a ”scandal” or an Regency Era ”golddigger” [26] , the opposite is true!
In the Bridgerton series, sometimes Anthony breaks the relationship, but also Siena, who is tired of the fact, that she must be kept ”in the dark”
because of the Ton and Violet”s disapproval of opera singers [27]
But everything, despite of fierce resistance by mother Violet [28] it is 
Anthony, who returns to Siena.
You can see Siena’s resistance to take him back when he visits her on the Eve of the Duel [29], only to grab him vehemently and pull him into her home after he reveals the ”duel at dawn” and their possible shared future [30]
And although loving her deeply, due to his noble privileges he doesn’t always realize the financial impact for Siena.
So when there is a temporary break up between him and Siena [it is an on/of relationship due to Ton pressure and their own passionate characters, because Siena is a fierce and passionate woman [31] and Anthony is not an easy one either], he doesn’t pay her apartment [31A], forcing her to go to her friend Genevieve Delacroix, a dressmaker for the Ton Ladies [32] to live their until the storm has come to rest and she and Anthony kiss their reconciliation again.
For a woman like Siena that is a dangerous and uncertain financial position and although she loves Anthony dearly, she is forced to look out for another patron, who can help her to survive.
REGAINED LOVE/THE BOX SCENE
And that happens
She finds another ”protector”, but during a Box match show, where she is with him, Anthony is in the public too.
While everyone is watching the box game, Anthony sees Siena and has only eyes for her and at a certain moment their eyes meet and it feels like electric magnetism.
At the next scene you see them making love under the Box Platform
Watch the scene! [33]

And so was their relationship:

s.
They were vehement, passionate and fought with each other,
physically and verbally, stormed against each other and had vehement break-ups, but at the end were atrracted to each other like magnets…..
WHAT SHE WAS TO ANTHONY
For a long time, she was the hearth fire by which Anthony warmed himself against the cold walls of Aubrey Hall and a mother, who emotionally neglected him, though she loved him in her heart.

With her, he could be himself for a moment, with someone who saw him as a man to be loved, not as a Viscount with duties.
HER MOST PAINFUL DECISION/THE BREAK UP
This is said by a commentator about their painful break up
The breakup at the end of Season 1 is often perceived as a defeat, but it is actually Siena’s most powerful moment. She is the one who realizes that Anthony can never truly protect her from societal exclusion.”
I think that”s true
Despite all social resistance against their relationship [34] Anthony still wants to fight for them.
And he thinks, that having the power of a wealthy Viscount and having a sister as a Duchess [Daphne, married  his best friend Simon Basset, who out of her great love for Simon, fought tooth and nails for her marriage, but that was in their own social class, so approved] [35], he could force the Ton to accept Siena,
So he went to her, with flowers in his hand and high hopes in his heart but she, being with another man, refused him and nearly screamed that he ”must let her go” [36]
Not out of love, but BECAUSE she loved him and with pain in her heart.
She understood what he was not willing to.
That even if his sister would accept and support him, the Ton would socially exclude him [37] and if not, Siena would bear the brunt since they would be polite to her in his presence, but mock her behind his back.
It was heartbreaking for her and him and would always leave a scar on him. [38]
And her last words to him were heartbreaking:
“Farewell, my lord. I hope you find perfection.”
SIENA AS A STRONG, PASSIONATE AND FIERCE WOMAN
Although the immense heart break, Siena did not lose.
Her great Love
YES
But not her Dignity
She loved Anthony passionately and fiercely, but she had also
the power to be realistic in a desperate situation.
She had to put her social preservation first and the securing of her financial future, seeing that the Ton would not accept their relation 
”in the Light”
Because that was the Dilemma
Anthony loved her deeply, but wanted to combine his position as a Viscount with his love for her.
And Yes, he was prepared to flee with her on the Eve of the Duel, when he had to flee the country when he had killed his best friend [39], but staying in England and continuing their relationship would be ”in the dark” and she so desperately wanted to be his wife ”in the light” and understood that that would not happen, despite their deep love for each other.
So it was not heartlessness that caused her to finish their relationship, like parts of the Bridgerton Fandom claim, but out of love, courage and self preservation.
She had to go on, with a man who could bring her into
the Light, while she so desperately wanted to be with her love.
Had their Love Life continued, than it was either ”in the dark” or was it ”in the Light” than Anthony had to go to duel each day for the offenses done to his beloved Siena.
But let’s be totally fair:
However destructive Violet’s role was, Anthony had also his own responsibility in this.
Because when all things were said and done, how much he loved Siena, at the end he had not the courage to stand up against his mother, no matter how immense her pressure and emotional blackmail, leave all things behind and flee with Siena.
So he gave ”Lady Violent” the power to ruin his life…..
 I think Siena understood  at the end.
She  HAD the courage to take that heartbreaking decision to break up their Loving Relationship.
And that was HER Power.
She was passionate, loving, courageous, proud and loyal till the End [40]
But she couldn’t be ”his fool again” [41]
Heartbreaking, but she protected him and herself.
And it is high time for someone to speak out loudly and
give her the Honour she truly deserves.
ASTRID ESSED
NOTES
 
 
NOTES 1 AND 2
 
 
NOTE 3
NOTES 4 AND 5
NOTE 6
NOTE 7
NOTE 8
NOTE 9
NOTE 10
NOTE 11
NOTE 12
NOTE 13
NOTE 14
NOTE 15
NOTE 16
NOTE 16A
NOTE 17
NOTE 18
NOTE19
NOTE 20
NOTE 21
NOTE 22
NOTES 23 AND 24
NOTE 25
NOTE 26
NOTE 27
NOTE 28
NOTE 29
NOTE 30
NOTE 31
NOTE 31A
NOTE 32
NOTE 33
NOTE 34
NOTE 35
NOTE 36
NOTE 37
NOTE 38
NOTE 39
NOTE 40
NOTE 41

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Siena Rosso, the First and Deep Love of Anthony Bridgerton/”A Certain Soprano”

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tJsGWUDjgX0

SIENA ROSSO/THE FIRST AND DEEP LOVE OF ANTHONY BRIDGERTON/”A CERTAIN SOPRANO”
She was passionate, loving, courageous, proud and loyal till the End 
But she couldn’t be ”his fool again” 
Heartbreaking, but she protected him and herself.
 
And it is high time for someone to speak  out loudly and
give her the Honour she truly deserves.
 
 
INTRODUCTION
[Under the Notes you’ll meet Siena……]
 
HALLO FOLKS,
 
 
This Post is dedicated to a Bridgerton character, who is often overlooked or is only seen or talked about in relation to others, not as an individual.
And I think that’s wrong, because it doesn’t do justice to the person she was, no matter what you think of her:
 
As you already could see from the title it concerns opera singer Siena Rosso, who had a long standing Love Relationship with one of the main characters in the Bridgerton series, Anthony Bridgerton the eldest son and Head of the Bridgerton Family [1A]
Although the nature of their relationship is a source of discussion among Fans and although of course everyone is entitled to his or her own opinion, I think I have convincingly demonstrated, that it was real love between those two [2A]
 
 
It was a deep and passionate Love relationship [3A] 
And I dare say that Anthony Bridgerton would never forget her despite his later happiness with Kate Sharma, especially because he had to fight so hard for it and been thwarted by the very person who should have loved him unconditionally:
His mother, Lady Violet, who tried to give him the feeling [in which she did NOT succeed], that his love was something to be ashamed of [4A]
 
And yet apart from the fact that she had some social reasons for her objections [5A]
It was the inhuman WAY she did it by either dehumanizing her or silencing her.[6A],
leading to a permanent gap between her and her son Anthony, even when she offered her selective excuses in Season 2 [7A]
But I write about that another time
 
 
BACK TO SIENA
Today we give Siena her HUMANITY back
NOT SEEN AS A ”SCANDAL”, A SOURCE OF LUST OR FAR MORE CORRECTLY, LOVE, BUT AS A STRONG, INDEPENDENT WOMAN, WHO LOVED RAW BUT DEEPLY AND HAD TO MAKE A HEARTBREAKING CHOICE, BY THE INTOLERANCE AND HYPOCRISY OF THE TON AND THE WRONGLY DESIGNATED ”ADVOCATE OF LOVE, LADY VIOLET, WHO WITH HER ”BEST INTENTIONS” DESTROYED THE
VERY SOUL OF OWN HER SON [8A]
 
MEET SIENA ROSSO UNDER THE NOTES!
 
 
ASTRID ESSED
AND THIS FOR YOUR INFORMATION:
I’LL WRITE SOON ABOUT VIOLET”S DEHUMANIZATION OF SIENA ROSSO
NOTES
NOTE 1A T/M 3A
NOTES 4A AND 5A
NOTE 6A
NOTE 7A
NOTE 8A
SIENA ROSSO
[[What is most striking in the Bridgerton series is, that Siena is ”suddenly there”, without
any clues about her background, where she came from, whether she had any Family.
what were her hopes and dreams in life.
Her whole background is shrouded in mysteries.
And as she came, so she left, as if she vanished into thin air….”]
”REMEMBER FOLKS, SIENA HAD A SUCCESFUL CAREER BEFORE SHE MET ANTHONY BRIDGERTON. AND THAT MADE HER ”HER OWN WOMAN” WHO COULD LOVE AND CAST ASIDE….”
While having an opinion about opera singer Siena Rosso whether there was real love between her and Anthony Bridgerton or merely ”lust” and ”escapism” [1] many Fans refuse to see her as the woman she really was.
A loving, strong and independent woman in a difficult and precarious situation.
THE PRECARIOUS POSITION OF OPERA SINGERS/FINANCIAL SECURITY
To delve deeper into the World of Siena [the Opera World] it is important that you realize,,
that apart from all romantic and sensation of the Bridgertonseries  [2] [what was a part of her world to, with as main part her Love Affair with Anthony] [3], the position of opera singers was very, as I said, precarious and complicated in Regency Era.
As was rightly noted by a commentator
”While the women of the Bridgerton family live protected lives inside a bubble of wealth and balls, Siena literally has to sing for her supper.”
And that was the main difference between Siena and the Ton girls in general: [4]
Why they lived doing nothing but embroidering, doing ”charity” and visiting balls, Siena had to work for her money, wake up early, depending for her living from her voice.
But not only that:
In order to get a position and being in the opportunity to build up
a career, operasingers were dependent of wealthy men, mostly noblemen, to give them as well the possibility to make a career as
financial protection [5]
SEXUAL PREDATORS
In Regency Era, society was highly sexualized:
Men had practically every sexual right:
A sexual affair of a Ton man was considered as normal, but when a woman had a sexual affair and it came into light, she was completely ruined. [6]
Men ”had all the rights” and took them.
 
That reflected on the Opera World also:
 
Women [here Operasingers] were considered as a sort of
”justified sexual prey”, who could be approached by any ”’gentleman”, who wanted to go backstage of the Opera as some did. [7]
So having a wealthy ”protector” prevented women to be sexually approached by any ”gentleman”, who felt the need to do so [8]
 
But apart from the ”wealthy protector”, those women had to be raw and able to fight physically, were they in a situation that an oversexualized gentleman wanted to approach them and the protector was not in
the neighborhood.
You can see a glimpse from that in the sex scenes between Anthony and Siena, which are very passionate, not only because of the wild and passionate magnetic between them, but also because of Siena’s need to be strong and protect herself.
You see her grabbing Anthony intensely and pushing him against a wall and tearing his clothes off, by passion and despair [because their relationship is incriminated by his mother and society] [9], but also from her raw surviving instinct [10]
 
And to come back to that financial security:
Not only singers were frequently expected to pay for their own elaborate stage costumes, private transportation, security, and specialized vocal training, they had to live in fashionable neighborhoods for their status.
AND the Opera work was seasonal, what means that after the Opera
Season they had no income, what urged the need of a wealthy protector [11]
ANTHONY/OATH OF BENEDICT
 
 
”IF I DIE YOU MUST ENSURE SHE IS PROVIDED FOR”
[ANTHONY TO BENEDICT BEFORE THE DUEL
ABOUT HIS OATH TO
TAKE CARE FOR SIENA]
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tJsGWUDjgX0
 
That”s why Anthony Bridgerton was extremely worried about Siena on the Eve of the Duel.
He knew that without his protection, Siena not only was left without income, but also unprotected and a possible sexual prey [12]
And because of his deep love for her, just before the beginning of the duel with Simon Basset, Anthony pulled his brother Benedict aside and made him swear to take care for Siena financially, when he died in the duel…..[13]
One of the most impressive and convincing proofs of his love for her, since his last thoughts before his possible death were for her and her wellbeing [14]
Were it just ”lust” he wouldn’t have cared at all.
 
So that’s the double standards to Opera singers in Regency Era
On the one hand they were applauded for their talents and honoured with favors by the noble gentlemen, on the other hand they were not seen as equals and not permitted to entrance in the Ton because of their ”loose morals”, without considering that they couldn’t survive without wealthy patrons [15]
 
But that’s one thing.
Regarding the sexuality, they were ”tolerated” as mistresses, but the moment true love came in the picture, like in the case of Anthony Bridgerton and Siena [16], it became impossible to be together or marry[16A].
Being seen together at public places, even a walk in places like Kew Gardens, was strictly forbidden [17]
Anthony, who really and deeply loved Siena, wanted to break those cruel rules and force Ton Society to accept Siena as equal, by bringing her to the Ton Ball of his sister Daphne, now Duchess of Hastings, thinking that his own powerful position as Viscount and his sister’s position as Duchess were strong enough for the acceptance of Siena. [18]
Since Siena refused, leading to the heartbreaking end of their Love Affair [19], we don’t know what would have happened, but in most cases it ended with a great social scandal, leading to possible social ostracization of the aristocrat and serious social implications for the Operasinger  [20]
 
They could even be stopped at the door, to prevent they even attended the ball [21], but since in this case Anthony’s sister Daphne, Duchess of Hastings held the ball it is not likely that they would be denied entrance,
but social scandal surely would have been the case [22]
 
The cruel attitude of Anthony’s mother Lady Violet against Siena and by proxy her own son about their Love relationship [23] was a reflection of ”the shame society granted them” to quote the very words of Anthony [24][what of course doesn’t absolve Violet from her responsibility of especially her cruelty, leading to a permanent gap between her and her son [25]
 
 
SIENA AS A STRONG WOMAN
 
Why Lady Violet depicts Siena as a ”scandal” or an Regency Era ”golddigger” [26] , the opposite is true!
In the Bridgerton series, sometimes Anthony breaks the relationship, but also Siena, who is tired of the fact, that she must be kept ”in the dark”
because of the Ton and Violet”s disapproval of opera singers [27]
But everything, despite of fierce resistance by mother Violet [28] it is 
Anthony, who returns to Siena.
You can see Siena’s resistance to take him back when he visits her on the Eve of the Duel [29], only to grab him vehemently and pull him into her home after he reveals the ”duel at dawn” and their possible shared future [30]
And although loving her deeply, due to his noble privileges he doesn’t always realize the financial impact for Siena.
So when there is a temporary break up between him and Siena [it is an on/of relationship due to Ton pressure and their own passionate characters, because Siena is a fierce and passionate woman [31] and Anthony is not an easy one either], he doesn’t pay her apartment [31A], forcing her to go to her friend Genevieve Delacroix, a dressmaker for the Ton Ladies [32] to live their until the storm has come to rest and she and Anthony kiss their reconciliation again.
For a woman like Siena that is a dangerous and uncertain financial position and although she loves Anthony dearly, she is forced to look out for another patron, who can help her to survive.
 
REGAINED LOVE/THE BOX SCENE
 
And that happens
She finds another ”protector”, but during a Box match show, where she is with him, Anthony is in the public too.
While everyone is watching the box game, Anthony sees Siena and has only eyes for her and at a certain moment their eyes meet and it feels like electric magnetism.
At the next scene you see them making love under the Box Platform
Watch the scene! [33]
 
And so was their relationship:
They were vehement, passionate and fought with each other,
physically and verbally, stormed against each other and had vehement break-ups, but at the end were atrracted to each other like magnets…..
WHAT SHE WAS TO ANTHONY
For a long time, she was the hearth fire by which Anthony warmed himself against the cold walls of Aubrey Hall and a mother, who emotionally neglected him, though she loved him in her heart.

With her, he could be himself for a moment, with someone who saw him as a man to be loved, not as a Viscount with duties.
 
 
HER MOST PAINFUL DECISION/THE BREAK UP
 
This is said by a commentator about their painful break up
 
The breakup at the end of Season 1 is often perceived as a defeat, but it is actually Siena’s most powerful moment. She is the one who realizes that Anthony can never truly protect her from societal exclusion.”
I think that”s true
Despite all social resistance against their relationship [34] Anthony still wants to fight for them.
And he thinks, that having the power of a wealthy Viscount and having a sister as a Duchess [Daphne, married  his best friend Simon Basset, who out of her great love for Simon, fought tooth and nails for her marriage, but that was in their own social class, so approved] [35], he could force the Ton to accept Siena,
So he went to her, with flowers in his hand and high hopes in his heart but she, being with another man, refused him and nearly screamed that he ”must let her go” [36]
 
Not out of love, but BECAUSE she loved him and with pain in her heart.
She understood what he was not willing to.
That even if his sister would accept and support him, the Ton would socially exclude him [37] and if not, Siena would bear the brunt since they would be polite to her in his presence, but mock her behind his back.
 
It was heartbreaking for her and him and would always leave a scar on him. [38]
And her last words to him were heartbreaking:
 
“Farewell, my lord. I hope you find perfection.”
SIENA AS A STRONG, PASSIONATE AND FIERCE WOMAN
 
Although the immense heart break, Siena did not lose.
Her great Love
YES
 
But not her Dignity
She loved Anthony passionately and fiercely, but she had also
the power to be realistic in a desperate situation.
She had to put her social preservation first and the securing of her financial future, seeing that the Ton would not accept their relation 
”in the Light”
Because that was the Dilemma
 
Anthony loved her deeply, but wanted to combine his position as a Viscount with his love for her.
And Yes, he was prepared to flee with her on the Eve of the Duel, when he had to flee the country when he had killed his best friend [39], but staying in England and continuing their relationship would be ”in the dark” and she so desperately wanted to be his wife ”in the light” and understood that that would not happen, despite their deep love for each other.
 
So it was not heartlessness that caused her to finish their relationship, like parts of the Bridgerton Fandom claim, but out of love, courage and self preservation.
She had to go on, with a man who could bring her into
the Light, while she so desperately wanted to be with her love.
 
Had their Love Life continued, than it was either ”in the dark” or was it ”in the Light” than Anthony had to go to duel each day for the offenses done to his beloved Siena.
 
But let’s be totally fair:
However destructive Violet’s role was, Anthony had also his own responsibility in this.
Because when all things were said and done, how much he loved Siena, at the end he had not the courage to stand up against his mother, no matter how immense her pressure and emotional blackmail, leave all things behind and flee with Siena.
So he gave ”Lady Violent” the power to ruin his life…..
 
 I think Siena understood  at the end.
She  HAD the courage to take that heartbreaking decision to break up their Loving Relationship.
And that was HER Power.
 
She was passionate, loving, courageous, proud and loyal till the End [40]
But she couldn’t be ”his fool again” [41]
Heartbreaking, but she protected him and herself.
 
And it is high time for someone to speak out loudly and
give her the Honour she truly deserves.
 
 
ASTRID ESSED
 
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NOTE 41

[41]
I CANNOT BE YOUR FOOL AGAIN

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